Yesterday we talked about limiting the time you are worrying. Today I would like to offer an idea on how to make that time productive.
Worry is simply the product of fear. Fear is a product of the unknown. The unknown is always fearful. The longest best selling book in history is filled with stories of fear and the stories always begin with some angel announcing "Be not afraid!" (The best seller, in case you were wondering: The Bible) Fear AKA. Worry, will paralyze you.
While you are worrying let your worry empower you instead of paralyze you. As you worry contemplate the worst case scenario, then consider a solution for whatever it is you believe could happen. Keep it going though, consider every possibility of the absolute worst thing that can happen.
Let's continue on with our example from yesterday: Worry that the car will break down.
Worst case scenario:
I won't have a car and if I don't have a car I can't go to work and if I can't go to work I will loose my job.
Solutions:
~ Wake early enough to make sure you can implement an alternative plan if your car doesn't start or breaks down
~ Plan ahead for a ride from a coworker should you have car trouble.
~ Have spare cash set aside to have the car fixed.
~ Make arrangements with a friend or family member to borrow a car or give you rides.
~ Learn your public transportation options.
~ Have back up transportation (bike, scooter, another car)
~ Have spare cash put aside in case you need to take a cab.
Worst case scenario
If my car breaks down and I am in the middle of no where I could be attacked.
Solutions:
~ Have your car checked by your mechanic, or learn to check it yourself on a regular basis. (belts, oil, tires)
~ Always make sure you have a 1/4 tank of gas in your vehicle.
~ Find routs to and from where you are going that are well populated
~ Carry a cell phone.
~ Know where there are police stations or safe places to drive to if you think you are being followed.
~ Have your cell phone on your seat next to you and always make sure it is well charged.
I think you have the idea. Once you have your worst case scenario, come up with as many solutions as possible. Brain storm, ask other for input, research. Become as well informed as you possibly can. Remember it is fear that is causing this worry. It is best if you write this down and keep it with you so you can look at it or add to it whenever your worry crops up. Once you have come up with your solutions, find the ones that work, and every time start to worry, remind yourself that you now have a plan. Then you can stop worrying.
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