Failure to launch

Failure to launch.

 

Forgive me for not posting a blog the last two days.  I have decided that Sundays really need to be a day of rest, so I will not be posting a blog on Sundays.  As for my lack of a blog yesterday, which quite clearly was not a Sunday, I have an explanation.

There are times in life when you need to put all other things aside and deal with a situation as it arises.  Yesterday was just that.  A situation arose that required complete commitment and my undivided attention.  What, you ask, could this possibly be? 

Worry.  That's it!  Worry!  I needed to drop everything to help a family member through a bout of worry.  What where they worried about?  To be honest, the source of their worry isn't really important, it is the fact that they were in the state of worry, that required my attention.

Worry is an insidious beast that can paralyze those who fall victim to it.  It can also cause a plethora of health related problems to boot!  I will devote this week to helping you deal with worry.  You can learn to conquer it!  This weeks blogs will help you learn how to master worry.

Tags: Inspiration, Believe, Worry, Hope,

Public Service Announcement

The video clip below is from a news show.  It is real.  Please share it with everyone you know.  You could save someones life.

Inflammatory Breast Cancer

Tags: Breast Cancer, Love, Hope, Believe, Inspiration

may i feel?

This couple was decidedly not patient(especially he!).  It is however my second favorite poem.

may i feel said he
by e.e. cummings
 
 
may i feel said he
(i'll squeal said she
just once said he)
it's fun said she

(may i touch said he
how much said she
a lot said he)
why not said she 

(let's go said he
not too far said she
what's too far said he
where you are said she) 

may i stay said he
which way said she
like this said he
if you kiss said she

may i move said he
is it love said she)
if you're willing said he
(but you're killing said she

but it's life said he
but your wife said she
now said he)
ow said she

(tiptop said he
don't stop said she
oh no said he)
go slow said she 

(cccome?said he
ummm said she)
you're divine!said he
(you are Mine said she

Tags: Patience, Inspiration, Believe, Hope, Poetry

Decisions, Decisions Whats YOUR Decision?

He Who Hesitates is Lost!

The woodpecker's gotta go!

What are you waiting for?  Get off your ass (arss for the Irish out there) and do something already!

 

OK, yeah I can hear you already, what happened to patience.  Patinece is fine and very necessary and I am not tossing that asside.  I do not however want you to confuse patience, with lack of action and decisseveness.

 

Let me tell you a  story.  I don't usually include anectodes about myself, however if I have one positive trait is my decisive nature.

 

One evening my family was in town, my mother and father and her sister and brother and their spouses.  They were all many years my senior and we all went to a local chinese resturant for dinner.  Menu's were handed out and the waitress stopped by the table 3x in a 30min period to take our order.  Each time she stopped by the banter stopped for all of 10 seconds before resuming and the poor girl left the table without any more information then she came with.  When she came around for the fourth time I gave her the order while the rest of the table was still arguing about what they were going to order.  Froutry five min. after our arrival the "adults" had decided what they were going to order.  They then became impatinet wondering when the waitress was ever going to come and take their order.  It was at this time I let them know that I had ordered dinner for the table.  A hush fell over the table and they all looked at me in disbelief.  I could read their minds.  I'm sure you can imagine what they were thinking as well.

 

Long story short, the food came, it was great, everyone was happy. FORTUNATELY!

 

The moral:  Are you sitting around letting someone else make a decission for you?  If you know what you want, why not go for it?  Patience is important if you have a plan that is goal oriented. We will go into this more next week! 

 

Tags: Decisions, Inspiration, Hope, Believe, Patience

The Empathy Method

The Empathy Method

Using the Empathy method of gaining patience requires much more effort and imagination then finding your "happy place."  It does however provide a broader range of recall and application.  The empathy method requires you to walk a mile in the other persons shoes.  When you are able put yourself in the place of the other person and truly experience their feelings, patience occurs naturally and often changes to a spirit of giving.

 

Let me give you an example:

 

Imagine you are on a crowded plane and you are seated in front of a young mother with a screaming child.  This can be quite upsetting because you have nowhere to go, and no way of stopping the child from screaming.  Neither does the mother of the child!

 

The empathy method would require you to think like the young mother.

 

Imagine this woman traveling alone with a small child in tow.  It's been a long day for her and for the child.  She has spent most of the day in worry.  Worry that she will miss her flight.  Worry that she has forgotten something for the child. Worry that the child will upset the people around her, you included.  Worry that she will not be able to keep the child happy so that it doesn't upset other travelers.  Worry that if she misses her flight it will cause financial hardship to her family, or that it will upset others schedules.  Finally this young mother arrives on the flight, gets settled and attempts to settle the child.  The child does nothing but scream.

 

If you take all of the scenarios above into your frame of reference, you now go from a frustrated and inpatient person, to a person with choices and options.

 

You could of course choose to remain annoyed and upset, or you could empathize with the woman and try one of the following options:

 

1) You could sit with patience and whisper a prayer to yourself for the woman.

2) Offer the woman assistance Perhaps she just needs some help.

3) Ask a flight attendant to assist the woman

4) Distract the child.  Many times a child will calm down just by having someone new talk to them.

 

This is just one example.  The empathy method works on many levels.  It challenges the control of your emotions long enough to find empathy.  Once you find empathy it challenges your imagination to find a variety of applicable situations.  The beauty of empathy however, is that once you force yourself to use it in a new situation, it is always available for instant recall should the situation occur again.

 

Tags: Empathy, Happy Place, Believe, Frustration, Peace, Patience, Inspiration, Hope, Believe

The Peter Pan Method to Patience

The Peter Pan Method to Peace

The Peter Pan Method to dealing with frustrationi and having patience is FIND YOUR HAPPY PLACE!

 

Remember when Peter Pan was trying to teach Wendy and the boys how to fly?  He told them that they had to find their happy place.  They had to think happy thoughts, this way they would be able to fly.

 

This does take practice.  Lots of it!  It also helps to try it when you don't need patience, or when your patience is only being tried just a little bit.

 

Amy commented in a previous Blog that people admire her patience.  That doesn't come from being tired!  When you are tired, your nerves are usually raw and you want to belt the first person who gets on the last never you have left.  I am guessing Amy has learned to find her happy place.  That's the place you can go to in you mind where you realize that what you are experiencing is a) normal b) necessary c) fleeting and d) comical. (Someday, it certainly isn't funny but someday you will look back and laugh.)

 

Find that spot in your mind that takes you away to a place of peace, happiness and positive energy.  This is not escaping, it is not denial.  This is the power that all the great minds knew.  Negativity, anger and reaction to those feelings can be very harmful to you.  Finding a place of peace and patience will help you to step back from what you are experiencing, and allow you to have a clear mind to deal with the issue.

 

Try experiencing patience by finding your "Happy Place."

Tags: Peter Pan, Inspiration, Peace, Patince, Frustration, Hope, Believe

Patience

 

Last week we talked about Frustration, I think this week would be a good week to talk about patience.  You need it when you are dealing with frustration.

Patience is a virtue, keep it if you can.  If I had a dime for every time my mother said that to me when I was a kid I could have paid for college.  Funny thing was, she never really had any.  Patience requires struggle, often a very difficult struggle.  Sometimes the struggle is emotional, physical and draining.  Sometimes, it is simply needing the ability to wait.

For me I have found patience can be experienced using one of two methods

1) The Peter Pan Method

2) The Empathy Method

We will discuss them both during the week.  For now consider this story.

The Struggle of the Butterfly

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared and he sat and watched the butterfly as it struggled for several hours to force its body through the little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared it had gotten as far as it could. The man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of cocoon.

The butterfly then emerged easily, but it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would expand and be able to support the body, which would contract in time.

Neither happened! in fact, the butterfly spent its whole life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It was never able to fly. What the man, in kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved freedom.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If God allowed us to go through life without obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as we could have been. We would never learn what the rewards of patience can be.

And... we would never fly.

 

Tags: Inspiration, Believe, Frustration, Patience, Struggle

Dealing With Frustration

Dealing with frustration.

 

The best way to deal with frustration is to do so before it occurs.  Here are some ideas to try:

 

• Imagine each situation that frustrates you and create more positive ways to deal with it.
• Figure out why it frustrates you and whether your point of view is really valid. (you probably think it is, so you might want to ask others point of view as well)
• Imagine each situation and DEFEND the frustration. 
• Try to imagine ways of avoiding the situation before it happens.

 

You may be a bit confused how to apply these things to your particular frustration, let me give you an example.  One of the things that can really push my buttons is rude people.  If I were to apply the above ideas here is how I would do it:

 

• I could treat the rude person politely and with kindness andperhaps this would cause, said rude person, to respond more positively.  If this person is someone who is repetitively rude I might try to ask them to stop being rude.
• Rude people upset me because they are being inconsiderate and causing physical and mental discomfort to those around me and myself.  (I did consult others on this)  This is a valid frustration; however I can not escape rude people so I will have to find ways to deal with the situation in a positive manner when they occur.  If this was not a valid frustration, I would consider ways to learn how not to allow these situations to upset me.
• Defending rudeness can be challenging, but it is possible.  I usually try to imagine the person is in a hurry because they have someone at home who is ill.  Perhaps they are ignorant and do not know the proper way to act.  Sometimes I even try to imagine that they are just lost in their own little world for a moment.  (We have all had that happen to us)  Last, I imagine it is someone I know, who doesn’t realize they are being rude until the last moment, and then they apologize.  These ideas seem to work very well for me.
• Avoiding a situation that frustrates you can often be very helpful to overcoming frustration completely.   I know there are certain situations that will provide an abundance of rude people, crowded malls during the holidays, amusement parks during school breaks, grocery stores on weekends, etc.  Avoidance in this situation isn’t denial, it is preparation and forethought. 

 

While I know these suggestions will not work all of the time, they are steps I can take to minimize furstration.  It does take planning on my part, however when I am forced to be in a situation where I must deal with rude people, I have more patience and I am better equipped to deal with my emotional reactions. 

Try the steps above and let me know how they work for you.

 

(I know some of you were looking for the suggestion to pick up some over the counter pain killers and chase them down with a bottle of tequila.  While I know perhaps that might be more fun, it is neither productive nor healthy!)

Tags: Frustration, Inspiration, Believe, Inpiration, Hope, Success

Shakespeare?

It's Friday so its poetry day!

I love Shakeseare, the man was a genius.  Check out this poem, he had some sense of humor:

My mistress' eyes are nothing like the sun (Sonnet 130)

My mistress' eyes are nothing like the sun;
Coral is far more red than her lips' red;
If snow be white, why then her breasts are dun;
If hairs be wires, black wires grow on her head.
I have seen roses damasked, red and white,
But no such roses see I in her cheeks;
And in some perfumes is there more delight
Than in the breath that from my mistress reeks.
I love to hear her speak, yet well I know
That music hath a far more pleasing sound;
I grant I never saw a goddess go;
My mistress when she walks treads on the ground.
And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare
As any she belied with false compare.

Tags: Poetry, Belive, Inspiration, Humor, Shakespeare

What Pushes Your Buttons?

What Pushes Your Buttons?

 

Look at your list, how many things do you have on it?  I would like to take a guess and say that if you made a list of your pet peeves the exact same things would be on your list.  The more you have on this list the more likely you are to have high stress level. 

 

Take a look at what gets you frustrated and answer the following questions:

 

1. If I found out I had only a week to live, would this still matter to me?
2. Does what frustrates me affect my quality of life, or others quality of life?
3. Will my reaction to this frustration improve my quality of life?
4. Will others benefit from my reaction to this particular frustration?
5. Do I react to my frustration in a way I am proud of?

 

If you answered yes’s to the above questions then your frustrations are most likely few and you are using them to make the world a better place.

 

If your answers to the above questions are no’s then your frustrations are most likely abundant and making your life miserable and quite possibly the people around you as well.

 

Take some time to analyze the list and tomorrow we will discuss ways to handle that which you find frustrating.

Tags: Frustration, Hope, Peace, Believe, Inspiration

Noah and Irony

Noah & Irony

Well, I wasn’t able to post my blog at my usual time because of very bad rains, tornados, floods and power outages.  Entertaining as all of this was, when I arrived home from work I had all intentions of posting my blog after I ate lunch.  As I sat down to eat Lunch I looked out my back window and noticed that the water level in my pool had risen to meet the level of the pavement.  I went out to drain the water and thought perhaps their might be some water in the basement.  Sure enough I was flooded.

 

The irony in all of this is that the blog topic for this week is “frustration.”  The above scenario might get anyone’s panties in a bunch, not mine.  I found the whole situation rather cathartic, but I do hope that this explains my missing blog.

 

A funny side note:

 

I thought it was very kind of the good Lord to provide awesome visual effects for a lesson I had to teach on “Noah and the <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" />Ark” today!  Heavy rain winds and floods!  Perfect!

 

 

Tags: Floods, Irony, Frustration, Believe, Hope, Inspiration

Declaration

One afternoon I was walking past the outdoor play area of my gym when I saw a little girl fall and start to cry.  The child care worker was right near her and went over and questioned “awwww did you hurt your self?”  From the far corner of the play area a little boy exclaimed “I didn’t do it!”

 

Clearly this boy has had to deal with his fair share of blame, when his spontaneous reaction to someone crying is a plea of self defense.  Frustration will do that to you.

 

Let’s talk about frustration this week.  Make a list of all the things that frustrate you then number them in order of importance.  Tomorrow we will discuss how you can make your frustrations more manageable.

 

 

 

Tags: Frustration, Believe, Hope, Inspire

Don't Leave Me Here!

Don't Leave Me Here!

I don't usually get personal in my Blog, but a resent experience seems important to share.  I just returned from California where I visited family I haven't seen in almost 10 years.  Our first full day there was the 4th of July (INDEPENDENCE DAY!) and we traveled to a nearby town called Los Gatos.  On our way to the town I was describing my business and how a painting done by Mackenzie Thorpe had come to represent all that I believe will happen in my life.  I was explaining how my two favorite artists were Michael Parks and Mackenzie Thorpe.  I also explained how I had the good fortune to see an original Michael Parks in Palm Beach Florida (extremely rare) and continued to explain that I was planning on purchasing a Mackenzie Thorpe print in the near future. 

Said Print: Entilted "The Miracle To Come"

When we arrived in Lost Gatos most of the shops were closed due to the holiday so we enjoyed window shopping.  As we walked we came upon a gallery.  This particular gallery was featuring Mackenzie Thorpe!  To make a very long story short, I lost my camera that day and we went back to town two days later to search for it.  We stopped in the gallery and I was able to enjoy Mackenzie's genius.  While doing so, I spoke with the proprietor of the gallery and she showed me the print:

The name of this print is "Don't Leave Me Here!"

She told me that he explained this painting to her.  Look at the painting.  The house has no window's and no door's.  There is no way back in.  Everything is gone.  The person (you) now sits on the ledge.  You cannot turn back and you are afraid of what lies ahead.  If you notice in the painting, darkness shrouds the house. The light is coming from the unknown, yet we sit and wait.  While we sit and wait we call out, "Don't Leave Me Here!"

 

Are you sitting and waiting for someone or something to make your decisions for you?  Are you sitting on that ledge calling out "Don't Leave Me Here?" 

 

You may have the perception that others hold the key to your lock.  They don't.  Only you do.

Tags: Believe, Inspire, Hope, Move!

Standing Outside The Fire

If you are doubting yourself or your dream at all watch the video below and listen to the lyrics that accompany it.  Truly inspirational.

They Lyrics to the song are printed below as well.

"Standing Outside The Fire"

Garth Brooks

We call them cool
Those hearts that have no scars to show
The ones that never do let go
And risk the tables being turned

We call them fools
Who have to dance within the flame
Who chance the sorrow and the shame
That always comes with getting burned

But you've got to be tough when consumed by desire
'Cause it's not enough just to stand outside the fire

We call them strong
Those who can face this world alone
Who seem to get by on their own
Those who will never take the fall

We call them weak
Who are unable to resist
The slightest chance love might exist
And for that forsake it all

They're so hell-bent on giving ,walking a wire
Convinced it's not living if you stand outside the fire

Standing outside the fire
Standing outside the fire
Life is not tried, it is merely survived
If you're standing outside the fire

There's this love that is burning
Deep in my soul
Constantly yearning to get out of control
Wanting to fly higher and higher
I can't abide
Standing outside the fire

Standing outside the fire
Standing outside the fire
Life is not tried, it is merely survived
If you're standing outside the fire

Standing outside the fire
Standing outside the fire
Life is not tried, it is merely survived
If you're standing outside the fire

 

Tags: Fire, Scars, Belive, Faith, Hope, Love

100 Things

100 things about me

 

1.  I live in New York

2.  I live near Wine Country

3.  I love wine

4.  I like cheese with my wine

5.  I'm very Irish

6.  Yes, I love beer too!

7.  I used to have a job operating a Merry-go-Round.  To date, it is my favorite job.  

     I got to sit in the middle while the whole world revolved around me.

8.  I drive a Honda Element

9.  I think it's the best car ever created

10. This list was DP's idea which (apparently) was Paul's idea.

11.  I copied their ideas without asking.

12.  It's been said that imitating someone is the highest form of compliment!  I like to compliment people.

13.  My favorite number is 13

14.  I smoke cigars.

15.  I traveled cross country and went to nine major league baseball parks.

16.  I have been to 13 Major League Baseball Parks.

17.  I love to laugh

18.  I love wine.

19.  I have a Spyder convertible.  I like my Element more.

20.  I have the most incredible friends anyone could ask for.

21.   Dead people visit me.

22.  They are always very nice and usually give me something comforting to say to a loved one.

23.  It doesn't happen often and I can't control it.

24.  I am a hopeless romantic.

25.  I love music.  All kinds.

26.  I love sushi.

27.  The most amazing place I have every been is the Bad Lands.

28.  I went to Catholic School.

29.  I love Broadway.

30.  I was abducted when I was 5

31.  They didn't get far with me.  I kicked, screamed and a police officer found them pretty quick!

32.  I used to model

33.  When I was in grammar school I used to sing the Star Spangled Banner every Friday morning over the loud speaker.

34.  I really don't sing very well, so I have no idea why they let me do that.

35.  I used to drive fromNew York to   Florida and back two times a year.

36.  I sat in the back of a Limo.  My dad was a chauffer.

37.  I was hit by a car while directing traffic.

38.  I was hit by a car in my drive way.  Three times!

39.  I locked myself out of my car the first day I got my license.

40.  I could have been in big trouble because I wasn't supposed to be where I was.

41.  I knew where my Dad kept the Hide a Key! 

42.  I can dance.  Pretty well.

43.  I love to dance.

44.  I love my computer.

45.  I believe it’s important to add romance to your day.  Everyday.

46.  I believe it is important to take care of yourself.

47.  I hate working out, but do it because its good for me.

48.  I love wine.

49.  I love Chardonnay.

50.  Champagne too!

51.  I have a dog, a cat and a fish.

52.  The cat thinks the fish bowl is its own private flavored water font.

53.  That's not really about me.

54.  I am an excellent cook.

55.  I am fairly creative.

56.  I love to paint.

57.  I love to shovel snow.

58.  When I used to be a stay at home mom I used to shovel all of my neighbors driveways while they were at work.

59.  I love hot dogs and hamburgers, but don't eat them too much.

60.  I love baseball.

61.  Everything I ever needed to know about life I learned from a Witch and a Pirate.

62.  I am working on writing that list.

63.  I have 60 thousand words written in a novel. 

64.  It took me five months.  I need more time to finish it.

65.  I once saw a therapist because everyone said that most people who had been through what I have, needed one.

66.  My therapist said I didn't need her.

67.  She did tell me I had a good book deal on my hands though.

68.  At one point I was fairly certain, if it was ethical, she would have paid me to visit.

69.  I love warm rainy nights.

70.  I love sitting on my front porch.

71.  I have an herb garden (Mandatory for any self respecting witch)

.72.  I celebrate as many holidays as possible.

73.  Gives me more reasons to drink wine.

74.  I don't need a reason to drink wine.

75.  I usually try to find a loop hole to most rules.

76.  If you tell me I can't do something, I will usually try harder to do it.

77.  I once got kicked out of a Dive Bar for taking my shirt off.

78.  It was hot and I had a very fancy made to be seen Bra on.

79.  I ran away from home when I was 17.

80.  I'm very spiritual.

81.  I pray hard for world peace.

82.  I believe that one person can make a difference towards that end.

83.  I practice random acts of kindness as much as possible.

84.  I love a challenge.

85.  I thrive on good natured, spirited debates.

86.  I don't get offended easily.

87.  If I love you, you know it, you never have to wonder.

88.  I love Diet Coke.

89.  I have Green Tea with God in the morning.

90.  Sometimes I stand him/her up, but he/she usually doesn't get nasty about it.

91.  I have coffee after my tea.

92.  I love Wendy's Chili.

93.  I love to Read.  I will read almost anything

94.  The hardest book I have ever read was "How Quantum Physics Explains the Existence Of God"

95.  I don't remember the author’s name.

96.  I enjoy learning about people who are different then me.

97.  I believe in Faeries.

98.  I love being Irish.

99.  My favorite flower is a Grey Rose.  I only saw one once.  At the Coors Brewery in  Colorado, otherwise I like salmon colored Roses.

100. I have little tolerance for rude people.

101. I am horrible at Math.

102. I try to give more then is expected.

Tags: About Me, Inspiration, Believe, Laugh, Fun

How Do I Love Thee?

This poem has always been to me the ultimate in love, endurance and belief:

How Do I Love Thee?

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of every day's
Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, -- I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! -- and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

Elizabeth Barrett Browning

Tags: Love, Believe, Trust, Faith, Truth

How Do I Keep Going? Part 2

How Do I Keep Going (Part 2)

 

What’s your poison?  Is it set back after set back, lack of faith, negative thinking from others, or worse, your own negativity? 

 

Finding The Antidote

 

Finding the antidote is relatively easy once you know what the poison is. 

 

If your poison is lack of faith try the following:

 

1. Clarify your dreams.
2. Question yourself about your desire in said dream.
3. Analyze the reasons for your lack of faith.
4. Find people who have realized their dreams and seek out their inspiration.

 

If your poison is set back after set back the remedy is as follows:

 

1. Refresh your focus.
2. Access your methods.
3. Make adjustments if necessary.
4. Surround yourself with people and objects that will keep you inspired.

 

If your poison is negativity from others:

 

1. Avoid those people as much as possible
2. Insist that others do not share their negativity while in your presence.
3. If avoidance is impossibility, use the negativity as an inspirational tool.  Turn it around and imagine when you prove them wrong!
4. Stay focused!  Do whatever it take to drown out the negativity.
5. Don’t watch the news.  If at all possible, avoid the news.  It’s a downer!

 

If your poison is your own negativity:

 

1. Read the book Taming your Gremlin by
2. Surround yourself with things that will remind you of what your are working towards
3. For each negative thought your think, force yourself to find two positive thoughts to counter act the negative thought. 
4. Write down each time you have a negative thought during the day.  If you are a very negative thinker try to do this each day and challenge yourself to have less negative thoughts each day.  For example, start on a Monday;  Keep a small piece of paper with you and every time you have a negative thought make a mark on it.  At the end of the day count up how many marks you have on the page.  The next day, get a new piece of paper and do the same thing, but challenge yourself to have less thoughts. If on Monday you had 12 negative thoughts, challenge yourself to have 11 on Tuesday.  A key to success to this is setting yourself a goal and a reward if you reach your goal.

 

Tags: Believe, Inspiration, Hope, Endurance

How do I keep going? Part 1

How Do I Keep Going?

 

Endurance, in the face of impossibility, is what separates those who succeed from those who just get by.

 

Nothing is really impossible.  Dreams just SEEM impossible.  Have you ever been lying in bed at night and a wonderful idea come across you mind.  It could be anything from an invention, to a business to the love of your life.  For arguments sake lets say it’s an invention you came up with.  You lie there and figure our how to make it, where to get the supplies, who you will need to hire to create it, sell it and handle the office.  You figure out who you will market your product to and how much you will sell it for.  By the time you wake up in the morning you have already made your first million and are working on remodeling you house with the money you made.

 

You are on fire!  You are excited and certain that this idea is going to work.  You then begin to share your idea with your spouse, parents or other family members.  As you explain your wonderful idea what do they do?  Do they get behind you, inspire you and start brainstorming ways to give it a shot or do they start shooting it with holes?  It’s most likely the later.  Next, you run to your friend and try to share your exciting news with them as well. I can be fairly certain that you meet with a bit of resistance at the very least.  By the end of the day you probably have completely given up on the idea and are convinced that it was a foolish dream and a ridiculous idea.  Then, six months to a year later, some Bozo on TV has an infomercial selling YOUR invention!

 

Sometimes the biggest dream busters are the people we love. 

 

Other times it may be obstacle after obstacle.  If this is the case, your attitude will be the only thing that makes difference between mediocrity and success.

 

Take a look at the video below and we will talk more tomorrow about impossibility.

 

Tags: Impossible Dream, Hope, Believe, Faith, Endurance

The Impossible Dream

 

The Impossible Dream

 

Perhaps you have a clear vision of your dream and it seems impossible.  So, how do you face impossibility?  Simply put; YOU DON’T.

 

Here are some points to ponder as we face the impossible:

 

If you believe in the impossible it means you do not have faith and you do not believe in your dream.

 

Where there is light, darkness can’t not reside.

 

Where there is love, there can not be hate.

 

Where there is hope there can not be despair.

 

Where there is faith, and when you believe there is no such thing as impossibility.

 

Below is the best video I was able to find that matched thesong.  Enjoy!

Tags: Impossible Dream, Believe, Inspire, Hope

Time and Space

Travel has thrown me off just a bit. The west coast and the schedule here have made it difficult to keep a steady posting.  Lack of Internet service has also put a damper on my ability to post blogs and read others as well.

Therefore I am taking my own suggestion and enjoying the moment I am in, knowing with complete certainty,  that I will be able to handle all that is awaiting me when I am able to tend to it.

Time.  Everything that has ever happened, everything that is happening now, and everything that will ever happen in the future, is happening at this very moment.  It's a bit of quantum physics for you, but think about it for a while. 

Impossibility will be our topic for the upcoming week.  Ponder the statement above and pair it with anything you may consider impossible.

I found this poem and thought I would share it with you, I think it fits well with today's posting. (Late as it May Be)

Because I Could Not Stop For Death

by Emily Dickenson                         

Because I could not stop for Death—
He kindly stopped for me—
The Carriage held but just Ourselves—
And Immortality.

We slowly drove—He knew no haste
And I had put away
My labor and my leisure too,
For His Civility—

We passed the School, where Children strove
At Recess—in the Ring—
We passed the fields of Gazing Grain—
We passed the Setting Sun—

Or rather—He passed Us—
The Dews drew quivering and chill—
For only Gossamer, my Gown—
My Tippet—only Tulle—

We paused beforea House that seemed
A Swelling of the Ground—
The Roof was scarcely visible—
The Cornice—in the Ground—

Since then—'tis Centuries—and yet
Feels shorter than the Day
I first surmised the Horses' Heads
Were toward Eternity—

 

Something to Inspire You

Keeping your sanity in the face of reality.

The best way to do this is to keep a healthy level of insanity.  Here is a clever list.  I have actually done a number of these...

 

1. At lunch time, sit in your parked car with sunglasses on and point a hair dryer at passing cars. See if they slow down.

2. Page yourself over the intercom. Don't disguise your voice.

3. Every time someone asks you to do something, ask if they want fries with that.

4. Put your garbage can on your desk and label it "In."

5. Put decaf in the coffee maker for 3 weeks. Once everyone has gotten over their caffeine addictions, switch to Espresso.

6. In the memo field of all your checks, write "For sexual favours"

7. Finish all your sentences with "in accordance with the prophecy."

8. Dont use any punctuation

9. As often as possible, skip rather than walk.

10. Ask people what sex they are.  Laugh hysterically after they answer.

11. Specify that your drive-through order is "To go."

12 . Sing along at the opera.

13. Go to a poetry recital and ask why the poems don't rhyme.

14. Put mosquito netting around your work area and play tropical sounds all day.

15. Five days in advance, tell your friends you can't attend their party because you're not in the mood.

16. Have your co-workers address you by your wrestling name, Rock Hard.

17. When the money comes out the ATM, scream "I won!, I won!"

18. When leaving the zoo, start running towards the parking lot, yelling "run for your lives, they're loose!!"

19. Tell your children over dinner, “Due to the economy, we are going to have to let one of you go."

      And the final way to keep a healthy level of insanity.......

20. Send this Blog to someone to make them smile.

Tags: Sanity, Insanity, Laugh, Inspiration, Believe

A Reality Poem

One Perfect Rose

A single flow'r he sent me, since we met.
All tenderly his messenger he chose;
Deep-hearted, pure, with scented dew still wet -
One perfect rose.

I knew the language of the floweret;
'My fragile leaves,' it said, 'his heart enclose.'
Love long has taken for his amulet
One perfect rose.

Why is it no one ever sent me yet
One perfect limousine, do you suppose?
Ah no, it's always just my luck to get
One perfect rose.

Dorothy Parker

Tags: Reality, Believe, Rose, Poetry

Fortuen Cookie

Fear is just excitement in need of an attitude adjustment.

 

If you have done all of your assignments you may now truly be scared to death to face reality. Fear is good.  It serves a purpose when used properly.  Fear is designed to instill respect not induce immobility.  You now have a fairly concrete picture of what you want and don’t want.  You also should have an idea of the disappointments, excitement, challenges, heart aches and fulfilled passions that await you depending on which road you choose.

 

You are most likely in one of two moods. 

 

Mood 1:

Uncontainable excitement:  You either now realize how happy you truly are OR you know what you need to do to achieve the happiness you desire.

 

Mood 2:

Holy S*#@!  Now what do I do.  I know what I want and don’t know how to get it.  I’m afraid to get it. I can’t get it!  I am afraid to chase it, yada yada yada.  What now?

 

Fear comes from a few different sources. 

~ Genuine fear of the unknown

~ Lack of confidence

~ Ignorance

~ No sense of adventure

~ Inability to change

~ Loss of hope

 

Decide where your fear comes from.  We will deal with that in the blogs to come.

 

Tags: Fortune, Reality, Believe